There are many things that easily make me unattractive to guys when it comes to finding a romantic partner. I first and foremost cannot stand a guy that thinks he is the best person alive, and that makes it known to you that “you would be the luckiest girl in the world” to date him. To me, a person with an “I’m all that” attitude goes way down on my attractiveness scale. Another thing that makes someone unattractive is when they are very needy. I need a man that is independent and has a job, goes or went to school and doesn’t smoke, drink heavily or do drugs. Personality to me is key, If you have a good personality such as, funny, outgoing, loving, caring, etc., chances are you will have a better chance of being someone I like, rather than someone who is not like that. I think Duck’s theory makes sense, and I would say that I have eliminated people through pre-interaction. If I see someone, unfortunately, I pre-judge; I decide if I should approach them or not. More than not, I don’t approach people whom I do not know because I feel that I am comfortable enough with the amount of friends I have so I don’t feel that I need to become close to anyone else.
I agree with you about the standards of a romantic partner. To me, a person's character speaks much louder than words. Somewhat of a person's character is shown on the outside (stable job, no bad addictive habits, etc) but mostly the inside, the beliefs and attitudes of a person. Plus the goals and dreams should also be similar or in the same direction as yours.
ReplyDeleteAnd I do evaluate people before I interact with them also. But I enjoy meeting new people, though I have a few close dear friends.